Healing Emotions & Pain

I desire to see only the light and what is pure and true inside of everyone.  Yet, I spent the past twenty years struggling with reacting--either freezing where I didn't have any access to say anything, fawning - people pleasing, fighting or fleeing.   Try as I did no matter how much spiritual matter I worked with, no matter how much I meditated, the improvement in the nervous system reaction arena was slow, despite the enormous effort I put into it. 

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I have discovered accepting and nurturing ALL of my emotions, caring for them and then to FEEL into the truth within me, love, peace, innocence and perfection, the divine in me.   In other words, when my pain comes up, when someone says or does something that takes the wind out of me, and leaves me doubting myself, feeling shameful, condemned, guilty or bad - this is exactly when I need to get still and allow that pain, the emotions space to be and to care for them, tell myself this is what I was programmed to believe and then connect to, FEELING, the truth, innocence, and perfection within me.   Give this beingness and divine truth space to be. 

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Here is a tool I learned from Marshall Burtcher, click here. 

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As I began doing this, I began trusting myself more, caring less of what others think of me, having more willingness to make mistakes and express myself, feeling inspired, and more joy has been emerging more than ever.   I feel more peaceful, less anxiety.  It points to what I believe, the Kingdom of heaven is within me.  Truth is within me.  This love and power need to be nurtured for the rest of our lives to undo all of our human programming that tells us we are guilty, bad, horrible sinners.   As we accept the truth within ourselves, it becomes increasingly easy to see this in others.  To be with others.   You increasingly stop taking things so personally and being externally oriented looking for love and validation in the world, that is the path to hell.

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I believe there is a blind spot that most spiritual seekers have, is making other people their authority and God, looking to them to validate them.  Have fantasy behaviors they expect from others that would prove their love and that they don't love them.    When the real work is instead of getting angry at others, blaming them for our pain and suffering, is to go within to heal the pain.   No one in the world can heal our pain, there is nothing another can to relieve us of that, each one of us needs to go within to heal this, to purify our feelings and consciously.   We will not stop condemning, blaming and controlling others if we do not heal our own pain and experience the love of God.

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THOUGHTS CREATE REALITY

 Quantum Physics 101 - It shows the world is actually spirit and affected by the observer.  

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The problem that positive thinking and all the myriad of strategies to improve the quality of our life or life is it misses out on healing guilt and shame.   Guilt, condemnation and shame blocks us from our connection to God and others, it blocks us from allowing and experiencing miracles and the goodness of God.    The blessings of God comes from experiencing innocence, remembering our perfection and inestimable value as a holy child of God, created in his image, our innate value being created of his love. 

Free will is operating in the realm of guilt and shame or allowing the love of God to radiate through us.

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MINDFULNESS​

Maharshij spontaneously discovered the power of mindfulness in creating peace, tapping into our true divine nature, which is a state of peace.   Read his story here.

By observing our thoughts or merely observe without judgement, we immediately gain peace and access to what so many refer to as, the present moment, or divine presence. 

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SHIFTING FROM EXTERNAL TO INTERNAL ​ORIENTATION

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FORGIVENESS

For me, true forgiveness is essentially realizing I am not seeing and experiencing through the Mind of God, it is an invitation for me to invoke the power of God to see his truth there, a miracle. 

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The most important prayer of the bible is the prayer for our enemies, because we can not know the power and love of God fully while we hold onto the human ideas of guilt and blame.  Seen truly our enemies are actually our saviors as they force us to rise higher into the God consciousness.   The book, A Course in Miracles refers to our continuous need for forgiveness as our purification process.   How we see others, we strengthen it within ourself.   The guilty must perceive others guilty.  Minds are connected, like quantum, and how others behave often depends on my observation and expectation. 

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Some upsets and pain takes longer to work through.  My experience is always when we have allowed true forgiveness, there is an experience of new found closeness that moves in.    It is very different from the human efforts of forgiveness when we seek to let go of a grudge with brut force.

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The goal of every relationship is to turn it into a holy relationship, where healing and strengthening your relationship to God is your goal, rather than human fantasies of specialness. 

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Song of Prayer (starts 10 min in), read on your own.

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